i'm stuck at this point as well. did you ever figure this out?
**edit** i figured this out thanks Olion
download & install its https://dev.mysql.com/downloads/workbench/
open mysql workbench
-setup new connection
-changed connection method to "standard TC/IP over SSH"
-change SSH hostname to your server
-change usernames to the correct ones
open connection and enter your passwords. ssh password first then MYSQL
open realm database
- go down to realmlist and right click
click "select rows limit to 1000"
change address and local address to your servers ip 192.160.***.***
next... next... should get a confirmation that it changed successfully
should be good to connect from your lan or port forward to your server.