well im not here to flame you guys actually so i'll keep it friendly, thanks for replying actually!
It indeed are two physical hosts, the SQL connection is correct, i've checked it all.
Both computers are directly connected to my modem (through a switch) so port forwarding is unnecesairy and even impossible, because it's unnecesairy.. uhm.. yeah.
i've already tried taking a different port for the server, like 8129 for instance, but it doesnt have any effect. same error, the acceptor cant be opened.
Both hosts are btw in the same network, i have multiple IP's in my range so they do have different extern IP's but they are connected to eachother through my LAN (both Hosts have 2 connection plugs, 1 LAN (which is non-connected to internet but connected to a router. non-connected to the internet because i didnt fill in the gateway port in the configuration) and the other connection is external, directly to the modem)
Nothing else could really be using the 8085 port, neither the 8129 port. It's a clean windows install and all, so i guess thats all right.
Hope I informed you somewhat more detailed.. thanks for your replies
You can also check out my post on trinity forums, to see what suggestions were given there and what info i've told there, might come in handy.
http://forum.trinitycore.org/topic/28812-extern-logonserver/page__gopid__151732#entry151732
Hope i dont break any rules by posting a link to a different emulator page