Let me try to troubleshoot some of your problems.
You'll need the package, openssh-server, installed on Ubuntu, if you havn't installed it manually.
$ sudo apt-get install openssh-server
Ubuntu doesn't have it by default on desktop and alternate versions (server version might have it on by default). That'll get you connected via sftp using Filezilla. Don't forget to set your port back to 22.
The third quote in your post #32, I believe, means that you've successfully populated the databases with basic data. You'll still have to update them though.
That's all I could help with at least for now. My knowledge with SQL is still extremely limited.